TikToker’s gentle parenting hack to stop a tantrum is brilliant
This Nashville mom tells parents how she deals with toddler tantrums and explains her viral TikTok video that has garnered over 15 million views.
As a mother of three with really limited parenting experience (my oldest is only 8), the toddler phase always feels like one of the more difficult stages of parenting to me. Our children are limited in the ways they are able to communicate, they are needy, and patience is a foreign concept to them. Parenting is not easy at any stage, but I know many parents who agree that toddlers make us work for it!
With access to far more resources for gentle and mindful parenting, this generation of parents seems more determined than ever to shape a new way of raising children. So when videos like 26-year-old Alivia’s go viral, we love to see it.
The video, which has amassed over 4.5 million likes and 15 million views on TikTok and was compiled by multiple users, reads: “POV: This is how to gently parent when your toddler is on the verge of a meltdown… zoom!”
“I reheated some leftovers in the microwave and it needed a little more time to heat up,” Alivia told her parents. “Well, the girl was ready to eat and wasn’t too happy that I had to put it back in the microwave. Instant meltdown!” What the mother shows on TikTok is what apparently happens immediately after the food is put back in the microwave.
In the video, mum can be seen running around the kitchen. You can see the adorable baby girl’s mood change and she starts laughing instead of crying. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a toddler tantrum, you can certainly appreciate how moms handle tantrums while also knowing that it’s not always easy to go the “conscious parenting” route.
Much of the reaction to Alivia’s video has come from parents who can totally relate.
One commenter wrote: “I absolutely love it. I’ve learned to completely distract them with love and a safe environment instead of immediately running into frustration. We got this!!”
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For some, the video spoke to their inner child. “I grew up being yelled at or scolded. So I choose to sit and talk to the child instead. I don’t want another me.” The overwhelming majority agree that, while it’s not always easy, taking the extra minute to consider how to handle the situation pays off in the long run.
“I started learning about gentle parenting when I was pregnant. I knew I wanted to be a more conscious parent, but I didn’t know where to start,” says Alivia. “I watched endless videos on YouTube on the subject, and I just saved the videos for when I needed them.”
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With access to mindful parenting techniques becoming more widespread thanks to social media, many are using the approach to become less reactive and more mindful in their parenting style.
“I don’t always get it right, but I try to remember that she’s only 1,” says the mother. “And I think [about] what would I want my mother to do in this situation.”