There is just something so inexplicably attractive about high class individuals.
From the way they speak, and the way they move, to their aura, there is a certain sophistication that sets them apart from the crowd.
In this article, we’ve collected 12 personality traits of sophisticated people that will help you determine if you fit the bill.
Please note: These are not natural properties. These take years of learning, refining, and sometimes even unlearning toxic behaviors that you weren’t self-aware of.
1) You are always put together
Nothing screams class and sophistication like always looking put together.
You turn up to an event exactly as you need to – not underdressed, not overdressed. You also prioritize quality over quantity when it comes to your wardrobe.
If you’re having a bad hair day or you’re not feeling particularly good about yourself, you know exactly what to do to boost your confidence.
The thing is, watching together doesn’t come naturally to all of us. It is a skill that takes time to master.
First, part of putting together your routine is being well-groomed, so make sure you never skip teeth cleaning and whitening, get enough quality sleep, have a consistent exercise routine, and maintain a healthy diet. Health is wealth.
2) You are well-rounded and cultured
You are eternally curious about the world and society around you. You are curious. You are always interested in learning about new cultures, ideas and even hobbies to expand your horizons.
Looking for opportunities to grow is part of your personality.
You keep up to date on important topics and the state of the world – whether it involves politics, economics or social issues – and never hesitate to stand up for what you believe in.
But at the same time, you also don’t force your views on others because you understand that a sophisticated individual has a flexible world view. Your feet are grounded in reality.
3) You know how to listen
People say you are a good listener.
You are invested in what people have to say; you make eye contact; and you notice the other person’s non-verbal cues.
Ultimately, you listen to understand, not just listen to respond.
The truth is that sophistication involves knowing how to disagree without being aggressive or argumentative.
Knocking on that last point, you’d be surprised how many people listen just to answer.
They don’t try to see things from your point of view, nor do they ask thought provoking questions. All they care about is getting their point across.
These are not the kind of people you want to surround yourself with.
4) You are fun to talk to
Communication is a two-way street. When you look at the other end of a conversation, you know how to keep people interested and hold their attention.
You are not monopolizing the conversation. You don’t let your ego get in the way by pretending you know more than you do.
Although it may have taken you years to improve your communication skills, you are now a sophisticated person who can articulate your thoughts clearly.
Your speech reflects your style.
Rather than being inclined to use vulgar language and profanity to express yourself, you have developed a wide vocabulary to effectively communicate your feelings.
The hours you spent reading different literature and engaging in long-form content have paid off.
5) You know what you are worth
You don’t play games or use your charm to get what you want.
Wherever you go – be it a job interview, socializing or even a date – you walk in with a sense of confidence. You refuse to be pushed around.
Speaking of dates, you don’t base your self-worth on someone else.
You know how to take care of yourself – emotionally, physically and mentally – because you know what’s best for you.
You don’t settle for the first person who shows interest in you. You choose the one you have come to know and who has never failed to treat you right.
6) You have respect for everyone
Sophisticated people not only respect themselves, but they also appreciate everyone around them, regardless of job, socioeconomic status, or even opinion on a particular subject.
For them, every human being deserves kindness, courtesy and grace.
Insults do not disturb them. Instead, they rise above their hatred and focus on things that fulfill them.
This is one of my favorite traits about my childhood best friend: He is polite to everyone and gets to know everyone he meets.
A waiter serves us and he asks what is the best thing about working at that restaurant.
A strange man sits next to us in the park and they end up talking about their hobbies.
His office mate is having a bad day, he leaves a thank you note.
He is the epitome of kindness. I could only hope to be half the person he is.
7) You are attentive and aware
Our desires move us in one direction, while our values pull us the other way.
As a sophisticated person, you should know the difference between short-term whims and long-term values and goals.
You practice the art of delayed gratification as much as you can with your whole life, love and career choices.
For example, you’re kind enough to yourself to have a cheat day every week, but you don’t give in to cravings and temptations on other days.
You are aware that simple sugars and carbohydrates satisfy you at the moment. Then you remind yourself that too much of anything can lead to serious consequences.
8) You are open-minded
You’re not afraid to say “I don’t know” or “I’m not very familiar with the subject, can you tell me more about it?” Not being enlightened doesn’t take a hit on your ego.
Instead, you are more inclined to learn, ask big questions and see things from different perspectives.
Did you know that openness is correlated with intelligence?
Smart, sophisticated people do not close themselves to new ideas and possibilities and are always open to other possible solutions.
This makes them more tolerant of different views and beliefs.
9) You are confident
I’m a big believer in the saying, “Sometimes all you need is someone to believe in you – even if that means yourself.”
A sophisticated person carries themselves with poise and grace because they know they can bring so much to the table.
They are comfortable in their own skin. They remain calm and collected despite difficult situations, and they are also receptive to feedback.
The main point is this:
Trust should also be evident on the outside.
When it comes to body language, if you aim to be sophisticated, don’t forget to stand tall and hold your head high. Smile. Make eye contact. Have a firm handshake. Project your voice.
And, of course, fake it till you make it. Remember that confidence is self-created.
10) You are self-aware
We are naturally wired to look for attachment, connection and validation.
Humans are, after all, social creatures.
And given the rise of the internet and social media, we’re starting to base how enjoyable our lives are based on the number of views our Instagram stories get.
Now there is nothing wrong with seeking validation.
But if you’re seeking approval to the point that you’re not living in the moment and it’s affecting you personally—your mood, relationships, self-esteem—it’s time to take a step back.
You have to learn to breathe, enjoy the view and sit comfortably in silence without a phone in your hand.
11) You are genuine and sincere
Sincerity seems like a luxury these days.
With many of our interactions online and behind online profiles, it’s easier to say mean things and pretend to be someone you’re not.
That’s why if you find someone who is real with themselves and honest with you, keep them.
They are hard to get around.
Another characteristic of sophisticated people is that they give sincere compliments without thinking about it. They do not admire in silence.
They also keep their promises and don’t play with people’s emotions.
12) You set an example
While much can be said about sophisticated people, it is generally agreed that they set a standard, a good example for others to emulate.
They talk. This means that apart from expressing themselves through words, they are able to lead through behavior and values.
You’ve probably heard the quote: “You don’t have to be the smartest person in the room. You should be the hardest worker.”
So one last thing you need to ask yourself is “Are you putting in the work to get better in different aspects of your life?”
If the answer is a resounding yes, I just know that you will soon reap the rewards of your hard work.
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